Charles Anthony McFaulds
Fri,18 Sep 2009
Charles Anthony McFaulds
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Dance in the Light
I often get more than a little peeved every time I hear people blaming their tough childhood circumstances or dysfunctional families for messing up their lives as they stand now. The reason for my frustration is due to the fact that we alone chose the place, time and circumstances of our birth. That’s right, we chose the alcoholic father, victimized mother and drug addicted sister even before we breathed our first breath, simply because we felt that we had something extremely important to learn from it all.
We even chose the hand and mouth existence all too many of us find ourselves leading, rather than a life full of privilege, prestige or the financial comfort that we see other people around us enjoying. A life like that is simply a different lesson that must be learned people, nothing more or less. But the reality of this life time is that we opted for a completely different curriculum. True, this medicine may taste awful to hear, but it is still what you need to take in and swallow in large gulps all the same.
As such, we can not, and should not, blame anyone else for the lives we lead or what we have accomplished with them thus far. If anything, we should be thankful to those people in our lives that allow us the opportunity to learn with, and through them, as a wonderful expression of Spirit. Even if it doesn’t always feel like that at the time!
The trouble is, that far too many of us end up using them as scapegoats for our own unique failings and character flaws. Rather than remember that we are simply taking part in a lesson that we are required to become skilled in if we are ever to progress and evolve as spiritual beings.
We can, then, shift our thinking into an entirely new way of thought and use where we are now as a powerful and empowering means of self development. Just because our mothers were victims of physical and verbal abuse doesn’t mean that we must endure a similar fate. Likewise, just because our sister is a drug addict doesn’t mean that we must become one also. The same ingredients may be used time and time again to make a variety of exquisite tasting dishes just by varying how much, or how little, we choose to add of each one. The same is true of life itself!
A small amount of dedication and determination can go an extremely long way when we have focus and a will to succeed growing within our hearts. Shirking our responsibilities, blaming our shortcomings on others, and feeling downright sorry for ourselves will produce an entirely different outcome altogether.
So, I guess the message I’m really trying to put across here is that we ALL have a choice. What’s more, we have two ways of looking at things as well. We can choose to look at our lives as a wonderful opportunity to grow spiritually, and as such learn and grow as unique individuals. Or, we can opt for the cop out and blame our circumstances, way of life, and spiritual well being on anything but the truth. The thing is we can’t connect the dots looking forward, only upon looking back, so we must trust in ourselves to somehow find a way to connect the dots to make whatever picture WE want from life, not what other people tell us what we deserve.
For evidence of this, take a look at a lotus flower. One of the most beautiful flowers in the world that grows from perhaps one of the crappiest and most disgusting surroundings it could possibly find for itself. But it’s not about surroundings; it’s not about circumstances; it’s ALL about making a conscious decision about what WE want out of life.
We each draw our own conclusions. To achieve that we simply search deep within and trust in our gut, heart, instinct or whatever else we choose to call it and make a conscious decision on what we’re going to settle for; the sky or a patch of dirt! Each of us has in our inner kitchen the same ingredients, at least for the most part, so it is up to us alone and no one else to decide what recipe we’re going to choose to cook with. Moreover, let us stop blaming those around us for the current dissatisfaction in our lives.
Be aware that each of us has the power to break the curse that has been cast over us by our own limited thinking to date, and the limiting thinking of others, to emerge triumphant like a phoenix out of the fire. Take one look at Barack Hussein Obama II, the 44th president of the United States and tell me differently.
So go ahead, have the courage to break the curse and become all that you are destined to be my friends; for you deserve no less!
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